No shame in asking for help, right? No matter how strong and independent you are, you really just can’t do it all. I mean what are you supposed to do when someone comes barreling down the bike lane the wrong way and almost knocks into you and you’re emergency stop leaves you barely holding the bike – with 3 children on it – upright?

That’s when you notice the dozens of passersby and, without another thought, yell, “Can someone help me out here?”

And even though you think that maybe if you’d given yourself another second to regroup, you probably could have straightened things our yourself, and even though you are sure there are people questioning the wisdom of riding through the city with such precious cargo, and even though you may be slightly embarrassed that you nearly dropped your kids on the ground and in the street, it feels good to let someone help you out. You’d do it again in a heartbeat.

But it’s odd. Because if someone offered help, unsolicited, you would have just as quickly, just as reflexively, assured them that you were okay, that you could handle it on your own. You wouldn’t have wanted them to make a fuss over you. You wouldn’t have wanted them to stop. You would have felt awkward and uncomfortable. You would have wanted to be on your way as quickly as possible.

Better to save yourself the awkwardness. Better to just go ahead and ask. No shame in that.

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